I feel the same way. I think im fat and need to loose like 13 lbs to be the same weight as all my other friends. but they all say and a lot of other people say im not and that its muscle. but i dont agree:( At my school there are alot of pretty girls to. i fell ugly:( my parents say im not but they are supposed to say that. But i dont know because my friends all have had boys tell them that they like them or to go out with them.....me...nothing:(
(just expressing my feelings(:)

I think that if all the "perfect" women were to disappear we would still have our own idea of what the "perfect" women is to be. Not meaning to be negative but I think that a lot of people have there own opinions on what's perfect and not every one but a lot of girls would have a personal on what they would consider a perfect woman but I don't think there would be as much girls or women who would have such a problem of looking a certain way.

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Originally posted by: supermodel
Totally.

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but I think that if "fake" women were 2 disappear really i think we would happen to choose the "prettiest ones": slim blondes w/ blue eyes and curvy (not fat) brunettes with rich skin and bold brown eyes. it really would sorta be the same. just with real beauty. but everyone would be pressured to be like them. just w/o the impossible to reach fakeness.

REALLY beautiful. that is so sincere.

Totally.

That is beautiful.

self-es⋅teem 
–noun

1. a realistic respect for or favorable impression of oneself; self-respect.
2. an inordinately or exaggeratedly favorable impression of oneself.


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Origin:
1650–60


Synonyms:
See pride.


Antonyms:
diffidence.

exactly.
Also, i think self- esteem is when you walk down the street or are on the subway and think you are beautiful just the way you are. Your true beauty cannot be compared to anyone and knowing that perfection is a word that doesn't exist.

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Self Esteem is being confiadent about who we are.
I am. But i wasn't always.
For a while i wasn't eating, i thought that by eating less my hips would somehow skink (illogical I know!) I am a extremly athletic person; I dance (ballet and jazz), swim competitivly, play soccer, play basketball and practice yoga. I slowly started eating less, i wasn't anorexic or bulimic or anything but for the amount i was excercizing i wasn't eating enough. I was okay until i went to a swim meet. i was swimming 100 butterfly (4 lenghts) when my body shut down. I started hyperventalating and had to be helped out of the pool. I continued hyperventalating until i passed out. Fortunatly there were lifeguards there as well as two doctors. I woke in an ambulance 45 minutes later. I went to the hospital and I stayed ther for a few hours. I was fine.
After that i slowly started eating more, all of my coaches started paying more attention to what i was eating. One of my coaches had me write in a journal everthing i ate for a month. In less then a month i was able to return to my normal eating habits.
Looking back it was n't that I thought i was fat it was that someone told me i was. She hated me because i was thin. So she made a petty comment.
Self Esteem is not caring what others say because we are all beautiful, inside and out.

Hannah
Age 14

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Why wouldn't you want hips? No hips is like a boy. If that's just your shape and you're not fat than you should be happy you have hips. Slim people who have hips (like me) usually have that hourglass figure that most women strive for. If you look at the Victoria's Secret Angels they have hips. Like I said, no hips is like a man, or a little girl. You should love your hips.

I don't think im pretty at all too. People normally say im pretty but I don't believe it. I don't have very many friends so it's hard to believe when you see all the gorgeous girls with their friends all the time and you with no one. It's hard especially when you have difficulties making friends. I am so shy around people and I always think they aren't willing to be my friend. I hate feeling this way. I always think I'm not good enough for people's standards. I wish someone could just make my friends for me. :(

Self Confidence to me is what effects the way you act, the way you percive yourself, the way you speak, the way you dress, and the person you are. I believe self-confidence isn't based on how "beautiful" you are it makes you truly beautiful. It's not based mon how much money you make or what size you wear. It's not based on what town you grew up in or how far away you moved. It gives you the confidence to move far away and know your safe, and that your friends and family will always be beside you to suport you. It gives you the strength to move forward, to live and to make everyday desicsions without a single bit of doubt. It's something that isn't taught but is naural to some and has to be perfect for many. It can cause breakdowns and it can ruin some peoples lives. But in the end it is what we all strive to have. We all want to be confident but many never are. Some of the possible worlds greatest people weren't confident and failed to be noticed. Their dreams became shattered and they didnt wanted to and could pick them up. They wanted to be seen but weren't confident enough to be seen and stopped because they werent strong enough to continue. It helps you stand up for yourself when your being picked on and it helps you find who you are when you feel lost. It define who you are and who you will become.

I never use to think i was pretty, and i always told people i wasnt when they said i was.
I finally realized that i actually was pretty when i saw pictures of myself , i recently lost 36 pounds, and i actually believe when people tell me im beautiful.

To me, Self esteem should be the good way you feel about yourself. In other words, the positive things about you. But now at the age of twelve is where I begin to experience low self esteem. It seems like every girl at my school is perfect, except me. Believe me, when you have low self esteem, everybody notices it. That's when I began to think, "why is it that I keep putting myself down, when I know everything I am saying isn't true." I used to cross my arms over my stomach, stand with a hunched-back, walk with my head down and so many more things. Than I started to write 5 positive things about me every day. Eventually, I added maybe 5 more. 10, 15, 20 etc. to the point where I felt so positive about myself, that I stopped. It really worked for me. Maybe you shoud try it!



Eboni, 12

Self esteem is a positive outlook on your self. It means feeling good on the inside and out.

I only got some self esteem about my self this year and I'm 17! It took a long time though. As a kid I had buck teeth, a horrible hair cut(thanks mom!) and people putting me down all the time. Eventually I got some braces, the helped with the positive look on my outside and my over time my hair grew back! For some reason this year I accepted that even though I am not the prettiest girl in my high school, I am me and no matter what anyone says, I believe in my self to do whatever I want. I learned that god made me this way for a reason so I might as well live with it.

My mom is a teacher at an elementary school and a child came up to her and asked her
"how do I get more self esteem?"
My mom had no idea how to answer this but if that little girl had asked me that I would have told her that she has to believe that she is beautiful and to love herself on the inside and out no matter what anyone tells her.

I found out the hard way that with out self esteem, you have no respect for your self, you dont believe you can do anything and you will never be happy with your life.

Self esteem is a positive outlook on your self. It means that you can feel good about your self, inside and out.

To me self esteem means to feel beautiful the way you are..of course it sounds
like a plain out answer but think about it..if you're happy with the way you are and realize
that nobody in this world looks just like and no one will ever have the exact same
qualities as you..that's beautiful...be with freckles, red hair, short, tall.
Whatever insecurities you have let them go.
I have many myself so dont nobody go thinking ah!..easy for her to say..
Im short,on the average side but I want to be taller, skinnier, prettier..and i think my thighs
are way to big, but you know what...I dont care!..I love my self..i love my thighs, my blind eyes [I wear glasses/contacts]..'cause you know..if we didn't have our "huge" thighs,
"small"/"big" butts, etc. We wouldn't be able to do the things we love!..running, walking, kicking, dancing, sitting down, and many more but my mind just went blank..
A while back I was watching this program about loving your body for what it does to you..
I mean your body is what keeps you in contact with earth and the people around you!!..
but anyways the show had this segment where it told all the viewers to kiss and hug every single part on their body that they dont like or wish they could change...and to list all the reasons why they love it..I despised my legs. I hugged my legs [kind of challenging]
kissed my thighs and said "I love you" [i meant it] ...and i was overwhelmed with happiness and a feeling of closer for some reason..and now i feel comfortable wearing shorts and skirts. And i love the quote that jazzie22 put up.."For Attractive Lips, Speak words of kindness. For Lovely eyes, Seek out the good in people. For a slim Figure, Share your food with the hungry. For Poise, Walk With the Knowledge that you'll never walk alone. People, Even more than things have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; Never Throw out anyone."
-Audrey Hepburn

I wish every single girl, woman on earth would realize how beautiful they are inside and
out.

Gaby, 14

Self-estem means to me that you can go out in puplice eat what ever you want wear what you want and feal good about it. if " prefection" disipered every girl in the worl would start to gain back there self-estem you wont have to worry about looking like a girl you saw on a cover i belive if they disipered self-estem levels would be at a all time high

To me self esteem is about eating that double-chunk-chocolate-chip cookie and that extra tall glass of milk. And feeling AMAZING. We all have our amazing secrets lives of food we dont want people to know we eat and things that set us apart.
Self-Esteem is about embracing the fact that you wear ski hats in the summer, cant stand jam sandwiches without the peanut butter or go through a box of bandaids on a daily baisis.
The last one is my quirk and thats what makes me an individual (though a very clumsy one)! I think the problem with many people today is they have unrealistic goals of what they want themselves to look like. People look worse looking like someone else than they do embracing their features.
Self-Esteem, Love, Beauty, they can't be defined and everyone's perspective is different.
We cant rail against those people who are a size zero, but instead help those people who try to be 0 because they think thats the perfect size. Its not the perfect size but another size and personally size 0 shouldnt be a size at all. it isnt...zero isnt a number (mathematically yes but for now..) so if you are zero shouldnt you be no size at all???
If you have a weight issue, and it nags at the back of your mind will it ever go away? You can say it has but as a person we will always compare ouselves to the person next to us.
But the thing you have to say to yourself is that you will always have something that the other person doesnt have, and you will always have something that someone else wants. So embrace that and show the world who you are because you only get one first impression on the world

I think that self-esteem is all about learning to love yourself the way you are.
I don't think that weaing makeup means that you have low self-esteem, becasue makeup can also be considered as a form of expression.
I think that whether or not you want to wear makeup, that's your choice
but surgeries, and crash dieting are extremes that women don't need to go to.
you are the way you are because it is how you are meant to be. I just think that everyone needs to accept how they are and learn to love every bit of it. =)