Hi Emily-Regan
I totally know what your talking about! My mom thinks that i am going anorexic and always tells me to eat more food. I'm not. but i get what you mean about being begged to eat. And everyone is beautiful in there own way like you said! I think that how much you weigh is just part of who you are. So whether your under or over weight it shouldnt matter, you are who you are. And your beautiful!!! =]

Excuse me, but, what? If you legs touch, it means youre human, not that youre fat. Who told you that? And how would you walk? Sorry for the questions, but thats kind of absurd and Ive never heard that before. It seems . . . misguided.
Madison

Hi; im tami.

im 14 yearsowld an am mad at mie docder cuz he sed im fatt. Im 162 pounds and am 5'4.5. i exersize healthily an play soccer for 8 yrs. he says i need to stop eating so much chocolate and poutine but i say no cuz i exersise and am healthy. im healin from eating disorder i was anorexic 140 pounds and im not meant to be that skinny. i just wish doctor would understand that people come in different shapes and sizes and not evrywon can be 100 pound supremodelle.

i hope someone else will understand mie sichuashon (excuze that last word, its to hard too spell) and replise. im so sick of evrywon putting my down evan my momsez im fat i just wish sheed understand that if i were 130 pound like her i would die of starvachin.

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Originally posted by: meisbeautiful
Hi, I am Emily-Regan.
This smmer I was diagnosed with Anorexia, so I know what it is like to have people begging you to eat and beong weighed like everyday. I don't want to be like this, but at the same time I do you know?

Whoever is facing the same problems as me, please read this. You are beautiful. Except yourself fo who you are, beause there is and ever will be only one of you. Everyday when you look in the mirror and see little imperfections, or step on the scale and see you've gained half a pound, I know it is easier said than done, but love your imperfections. They are what make you, you! So please, please, please, if you are a little girl who is considering not eating, or even if you are a 55 year old, please, belive me when I say you are beautiful JUST the way you are. If people don't like you, that is their problem. Who wats friends who only like you for your looks anyway? Please, do yourself a favor, and eat.

Love and Peace,
Emily-Regan

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you are a beautiful person Emily-Regan
you really understand what people are going though and care and i agree with you! i am not anorexic but i do put only eat a certain amount of food a day so i know where you are coming from. if people are like me or like you they should eat. please pass this message on anyone who is reading it and know eating is what we need and we should know that we are all diffrent

Hey, i'm sarah and i'm 15 years old.
i'm here blogging for gym class, we're in health right now.
i've read a few of the blogs and have been emotionally moved.
hearing about people that actually go through this stuff is so amazing.
i've known people that have gone through this, but never really talked to anyone about it.
reading these blogs makes me really think about what these girls are going through.
i'd like to blame it 100% on the media, but i know thats not true.
part of the blame has to be laid on friend and family influences. if someone is constantly calling another girl fat and/or ugly, then they are bound to eventually break.
also, if someone who is concerned with their body image is surrounded by people who are not, (i.e skinny friends, beautiful people) then they may feel more pressure.
the media needs to take a look at these blogs, and re-consider their choice of advertising.
i have to go now though, but i'll be back !! haha :)

remember, everyone is beautiful inside and out :) don't ever let anybody tell you otherwise.

I agree with 'cool kayla'. Every child is always a little bit chubby when they are babies or young children. It's something that we all have to deal with. Your still young and your still growing. Give it some time. Your are a beautiful girl and shouldn't focus on the things about yourself that you think are bad. Focus on the good things. You are BEAUTIFUL :) don't let anyone else tell you different.

WOW! Reading through some of these posts is absolutely crazy, because it reminds me so much of my own thoughts in the past.
At fifteen years old, I was diagnosed with Anorexia nervosa. In less than a year, I had gone from 165lbs (at 5'5") to 95lbs.
At 165lbs, I had a lot of great friends, and participated actively in school and extracarricular activities. I was extremely self-conscious, though, and felt like I was the only one of my friends who boys weren't interested in, I blamed it 100% on my weight. I started dieting, and losing weight surprisingly quickly. The more weight I lost, the more obsessed I became with obtaining the "perfect" body that would solve all my problems.
To spare you the bitter and horrible details, losing weight did NOT solve my problems. At 95lbs, I was diagnosed with depression and anorexia - I had pushed away absolutely everyone who cared about me, and was the most miserable and lonely I have ever been in my life.
Luckily, I got help for my disorder. Through a lot of therapy and unwavering support from my family, I gained back 40 pounds, and developped healthy eating habits to maintain my weight. Gaining weight back was INCREDIBLY emotionally straining, but it was the most worthwhile thing I have ever done.
In the process, I got involved in both drama and running at school. I made some amazingly supportive friends who I can no longer imagine my life without.
At 17, I finally got to know the guy I'd had a crush on since I was 14 years old. We started dating, and on Valentine's day he wrote me a list of all his favorite things about me.
When I got the list, I was FLOORED - #1 was my sense of humor. #2 was my intelligence... and all the way down to #10, not a single reason had ANYTHING to do with my appearance!
When I asked him about it, he simply replied "You're absolutely beautiful. But so are a million other girls. The things on that list are the reasons why YOU're the one I fell in love with."
That day, I learned the most important lesson of my life: PEOPLE LOVE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE, NOT WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE!
To have learned this at 14 would have spared me and my family years of pain and heartache. Young girls these days are BOMBARDED from every angle with the message that skinny = beautiful. The message they SHOULD be getting is PERSONALITY is what makes you beautiful. Your dreams, your talents, your ideas, and your thoughts are what make you shine! I hope every single girl reading this can take SOMETHING away from my story, and realize that no matter WHAT you look like, you are absolutely, flawlessly BEAUTIFUL in a million different ways.

People have eating disorders and sometimes they dont even know about it.
Me for example.
Ever since grade 5 or 6 i have been thinking about how every other girl in the class is skinnier and prettier than me. But for this past year i have been realizing just how much i compare myself to other people. I put myself down so much. To the point where i can't even look into a mirror without being disgusted at how fat i am. I cannot get it off my mind. Im always thinking about it. Literally every second that i am awake. Its consumed my life to the point where i said that when i got to 200lbs i would commit suicide. And the fact that i would be willing to take my own life, because i dont think im good enough? That shows how much our society is based on looks. I am 198 pounds right now. I am 15 years of age. 16 in july. I am so fixated on how i look that i cant enjoy life. I cannot remember the last time i felt truley happy. It is very hard going threw highschool being overweight. I am a emotional eater, so when i am sad i eat, alot. Since im never happy, it feels like im eating all the time. I cant stop, and im never full. I have an illness. Binge / Emotional eating combined with deppresion. It is really destroying the happy person i once was.
But if i could say one thing before i go, its that
YOU CAN GET HELP
dont end up like me. If your friend is saying shes fat, and she isnt..you saying shes not fat is NOT going to change her opinion about herself. Nobody can change her opinion except her. But you CAN make her feel worth it. Explain to her how many people love her. And tell someone that she needs help. If you notice shes not eating, dont confront her infront of everyone. Take her aside and have a heart-to-heart.
If anyone cared enough to do that to me, i probabley could have been saved.

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What you see in the mirror does not reflect what you are.
To see who you truley are, you have to look into your soul.

-Jenna H 15yr old

I am sorry, reading some of these postings is really frustrating. Just because your thighs touch does not mean you are fat. I have a friend who weighs 110 lbs and her thighs rub together just as mine do and she is far from fat. I played soccer for 17 yrs and I have big thighs. In highschool I was always a little bulkier than the other girls never so much on top just on bottom and I was always self concious about it. All my friends were at most a size 4 and I was a 10. I tried every diet I could and I always lost my stomach and boobs but never my legs. If its not fat it won't go away. I was so obsessed to be a size 4 but in reality it would never happen for me. My 9 yr old sister started calling herself fat and she wanted to go on the same diet as I was, and as soon as I heard her telling that to my mom that was my wake up call. There is no reason that a girl that young should be worrying about her weight or what she looks like.

The worlds body/beauty perception is so off. A girl is beautiful if she has self confidence and is not afraid to be herself, that is what makes you attractive. If you are overweight and not eating healthy then just switch up your eating habits, eat more salads etc if you don't loose 75 lbs thats fine you are eating healthy and trying to make a change, you dont need to wake up in the morning then next day and be 100 lbs its going to take time. I am just thankful that the people that love me and that are in my life accept me for me my size 11 and all. I wish that more people would accept other women as they do me because not everyone can be a size 2.

we need to be teaching young girls especially how to be confident in who they are, not what they look like.

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I had an interesting epiphany looking at a picture of a model in a magazine with a super toned flat tummy. Her midrif looks just like my little brother, who, for medical reasons is so skinny that he has heart palpitations. While I want to remain healthy, I'm not sure starving myself into a heart attack is the way to do that.

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I have a flat tummy, hourglass figure, Tina Turner legs and am pretty and by no means am I unhealthy. It's just my body shape. I definetly don't starve myself nor do I throw up. Like I said, it's just my body shape. I think that I have a gorgeous body, much nicer than those fat lumpy chicks that give me dirty looks when I go to beaches, but I don't think that my body is nicer than a lot of fit women out there. Most women would have nice figures if they were fit, I know that the model body is not the only nice one but you know what isn't a nice body? A fat one. If your thighs rub you're fat.

I know I went off topic, but whatever.

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Originally posted by: skinnyminny
What I don't understand is how people can say that supermodels (the underweight variety) are unhealthy and a bad example for young girls, yet plus size models are celebrated and lovingly referred to as "real women". Both of these groups are equally unhealthy, with the plus size (or "overweight") model having the pounds the underweight model is missing. Yes, fatter women are real women, but so are the anorexic ones. There is no such thing as a fake woman, even if she has had several plastic surgeries.

I personally am 5'7.5" and weigh 100lbs. I eat enough to satisfy any hunger, and I exersise adequately. I don't throw up ("binge and purge"), I don't exersise excessively, nor do I sit down all day and allow the pounds to accumulate. I'm constantly being told I need to eat and gain more weight, and as far as society is concerned, there is nothing wrong with people telling me that. However, I am not allowed to tell someone who is overweight that they need to lose weight. I also now have a hard time finding clothes, as the sizes have changed to suit the larger population (which has mostly resulted in the discontinuation of anything my size).

Please, don't encourage anyone to be or stay overweight, just as you wouldn't encourage then to be or stay underweight. Don't fight prejudice with more prejudice.

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I Agree with what you are saying as well. I am considered Over wieght actually but thats not really having anything to do with anything but i just wanted to add my opinion.

Women of all ages need to realize just what it means to be not only a woman, but realize that they are beautiful for who they are. Women, (and people) are all different and beautiful for thier uniqueness. Whether you are thin, fat, tall, short it doesnt matter, as long as you are true to yourself. It does not really matter if you eat right and exercise regularliy and all of that you may always still be round, or you may always be a stick. The point of it all is to be healthy, eat properly, and exercise regularily. People will still be different. And even if there is someone that is not technically overweight they will still be "larger" then an average.

When it comes to Super models and all that sort of thing i think that people are just trying to get women to realize that alot of the people in magazines are not real people. they are often photoshoped to become "Flawless" and "perfect" and, hence they become fake people. Just because you are Thin or of the sort of "stick figure" body type it doesnt mean that you are fake or that people are calling you fake.

The truth of it is that the average size for women is actually a 14. With thier changing of sizes an X is like and 18 and 1x is actually a size 20 and so on. So women are not really as "fat" as they think that they are.

When it comes to clothing, i think designers need to start looking more so at body types rather then simply one type of body or what size you happen to be. The whole Plus size and "above Average" sections in malls and department stores are really annoying too. Sizes should just be put together. I dont get the point of having the sizes seperated like that its Soooooo annoying and really is not solving any of the problems when it comes to a distortion of thinking or eating disorders or classifying people into groups. Its like "Normal" and "Fat".

I think people really need to just start putting aside all thier biases and judgements on how a person loks aside and just start treating people as people. no one is any better or any worse then anyone else. Be it Race, religion, height, or plushness. We are all different, we are all unique, and we are all beautiful.

Ah, but women that are overweight can still be healthy - that's a common misconception. Truly. Although too much excess fat is never healthy (as an American, one has to deal with 2/3 of the population as overweight (at least ten pounds) and half of those people as clinically obese (at least 30 lbs overweight)... there is possibility for a person who is overweight to be simultaneously healthy.

I do understand where you're coming from, skinnyminny, and we should never fight prejudice with prejudice, but I'd have to argue that that's not what's being done. If you look, and I mean really look at 'plus-size' models, they're really not that 'plus-size'... and I have my doubts that they're unhealthy.

Hi, I am Emily-Regan.
This smmer I was diagnosed with Anorexia, so I know what it is like to have people begging you to eat and beong weighed like everyday. I don't want to be like this, but at the same time I do you know?

Whoever is facing the same problems as me, please read this. You are beautiful. Except yourself fo who you are, beause there is and ever will be only one of you. Everyday when you look in the mirror and see little imperfections, or step on the scale and see you've gained half a pound, I know it is easier said than done, but love your imperfections. They are what make you, you! So please, please, please, if you are a little girl who is considering not eating, or even if you are a 55 year old, please, belive me when I say you are beautiful JUST the way you are. If people don't like you, that is their problem. Who wats friends who only like you for your looks anyway? Please, do yourself a favor, and eat.

Love and Peace,
Emily-Regan

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I completely understand you both (all smiles and skinnyminny) I' 15 years old. 5'5" and 105lbs. People constanly say Sarah - you seriously need to eat more, your so unhealthy looking. I've also been asked by a complete stranger "Are you Anorexic?" which was really painful to hear. Also, a close friend of mind. We both fit into the exact same clothes. Sizies and All. And just by looking at her you would think that she was just like me. But i guess not in the publics eyes. She has a little more weight around her stomache. But really not much. You can barely notice. but that seems to be enough for her to downsize me and call me sickly. Yet were are basiclly the same.

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I completely understand you both (all smiles and skinnyminny) I' 15 years old. 5'5" and 105lbs. People constanly say Sarah - you seriously need to eat more, your so unhealthy looking. I've also been asked by a complete stranger "Are you Anorexic?" which was really painful to hear. Also, a close friend of mind. We both fit into the exact same clothes. Sizies and All. And just by looking at her you would think that she was just like me. But i guess not in the publics eyes. She has a little more weight around her stomache. But really not much. You can barely notice. but that seems to be enough for her to downsize me and call me sickly. Yet were are basiclly the same.

skinnyminny,
I know exactly what you are saying. I myself am considered underweight, and have been told to gain an extra 10 -20 pounds. I am most certainly NOT anorexic, bulimic, etc. What I have is a high metabolism and an active lifestyle. I feel your pain when it comes to finding sizes that fit. You are right when it comes to the reverse of our situation. It seems that everyone has no problem telling me to gain weight, but I wouldn't tell someone that they should lose a few pounds.

There are people in my society that may envy me since I don't diet yet have the body they wish for, but that is no reason to accuse me of being anorexic. It probably doesn't help that I've done some media work and am seen as one of those "fake women". No one deserves to be called fake.

What I don't understand is how people can say that supermodels (the underweight variety) are unhealthy and a bad example for young girls, yet plus size models are celebrated and lovingly referred to as "real women". Both of these groups are equally unhealthy, with the plus size (or "overweight") model having the pounds the underweight model is missing. Yes, fatter women are real women, but so are the anorexic ones. There is no such thing as a fake woman, even if she has had several plastic surgeries.

I personally am 5'7.5" and weigh 100lbs. I eat enough to satisfy any hunger, and I exersise adequately. I don't throw up ("binge and purge"), I don't exersise excessively, nor do I sit down all day and allow the pounds to accumulate. I'm constantly being told I need to eat and gain more weight, and as far as society is concerned, there is nothing wrong with people telling me that. However, I am not allowed to tell someone who is overweight that they need to lose weight. I also now have a hard time finding clothes, as the sizes have changed to suit the larger population (which has mostly resulted in the discontinuation of anything my size).

Please, don't encourage anyone to be or stay overweight, just as you wouldn't encourage then to be or stay underweight. Don't fight prejudice with more prejudice.

Hi my name is Jessica, I'm 19 years old. Sometimes I think that I'm a lesbian and am attracted to fat chicks. Theres just something i love about chubby pussy I can't get enough. I just want to get lost in there! I know this girl named Cindy, she has abnormally saggy tits. I just love them. I want to tell her but I don't no how. I think she has a cock so I might not be a dyke for sure.

When your younge you always are a little chubby I know I was. Your some one thats still waiting for your hip so don't call your self fat your beautiful.